After reading a fellow blogger's new post about her anger with people being insensitive about her infertility I left her a comment. It was a piece of advice a friend gave me long ago, and I think God just brought it right back to me for an affirmation.
I told her that no one would truly be able to understand her journey except God. Her husband and other women who have walked the infertile road may try and so will her mother (who the blog was about), but only God will understand every moment and feel every bit of pain and sadness.
I suggested she treat all the "relax" etc advice like chewing gum. When chewing bubble gum you take it in and chew until all the flavor runs out (these are the things that build your up, that you take as truth, that are said in love) and then, with whatever is left, you spit it out.
No one gets mad at chewing gum when the flavor runs out though right? :) It's cute and that obnoxious pink color that reminds you of simplistic times. It's not the chewing gum's fault that it ran out of flavor, it can't help it! It did all it could by holding in as much as it could, and it's just up to you to dispose of whatever is left after the flavor.
I just took the chewing gum analogy to a whole new level. :)
Anyways... this is how I've aimed to be with advice. When you're infertile, it comes in by the truckload... because honestly, how easy is it to get knocked up?! People do it ALL the time, and some people even do it by mistake! So anyone who has been pregnant, or has a friend/sister/mother (lol) that has been pregnant feels like they're an expert. In the beginning I tried all the advice... standing on your head, eating a teaspoon of cinnamon, 'not trying', going on a vacation, blah blah blah... and the advice keeps coming. It's impossible to do or try it all. Instead of getting frustrated, I just take advice like chewing gum.
So please, feel free to tell me your distant cousin got pregnant by using a special kind of lotion or by adapting to a special diet. I may try it out! However, please don't feel dissed if I spit the advice out...