Funny how one bad apple can ruin your thinking. I got a comment from a past 'friend' on my blog late last night and it was rude and hurtful.
After reading her comment I changed my facebook status to the following:
Had my first person ream at me and call me a hypocrite for announcing our pregnancy. I knew this was coming, but I also knew I couldn't win. Just days ago, after finding out herself, she posted about how she was praying for us and cared for us... now that's it on facebook I'm scum. Sigh. Can't please everyone.
I want to thank all of my amazing friends who have taken the time to get to know my heart and know what my intentions have been through our infertility, IVF, and our new pregnancy. We've been through the painful aspects of a miscarriage before, and I wouldn't wish it or anyone. I don't want to strike that fear in anyone either. Our friendship ended when she announced her pregnancy and told me I should 'run to my hubby's arms to cry'. She asked what she could do to make it less painful, and I suggested not making it 'facebook official' until 12 weeks, but told her it was ultimately her decision. She instead announced it the next day at 4 or 5 weeks. Definitely her call, but she continued to be rude and bully me into a corner. It was clear then this wasn't really a friendship at all. :(
I'm so blessed by all of you who took the time to encourage me. It really lifted my spirits and affirmed Walter and I that we did the right thing. You all are a blessing for our Lord.